Unmasking Narcissistic 'Love': Why Narcissists Can't Love Anyone.

In this week's episode, I answer the crucial question: "Can a narcissist love you?"

It's hard to believe that someone who professes to love you could be so cruel, but what's even more horrifying is the possibility that your entire relationship was built on lies and the love you felt was entirely one-sided. Understanding the complexities of narcissistic relationships can be overwhelming, but I'm here to help you make sense of it all.

I unpack:

1. What love means to the narcissist
   Discover the unique and often twisted perception of love from a narcissist's perspective.
2. What a narcissist means when they say, "I... LOVE... YOU."
   Learn the true intent behind a narcissist's declaration of love and how it differs from genuine affection.
3. Did they ever love you?
   Explore whether a narcissist is capable of true love or if their emotions are merely a facade.
4. How to differentiate between "LOVEBOMBING" and genuine affection
   Understand the signs of love bombing and how to distinguish it from someone who genuinely wants to make you happy.
5. Do they love you if they only make you miserable a small percentage of the time?
   Delve into the confusion of intermittent positive reinforcement and its impact on your perception of love.

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Until the next episode,  REMEMBER......
You are worthy of soooo much love. 
And you are certainly worthy of a whole lot more than Fake Love and Flying Monkeys. 
Nova 💜

Thankyou so much for listening! I hope you found the information in this episode informative and validating. Lets face it. This type of abuse is confusing! Many people just don't 'get it', but I do, and you now know this a safe place to not just feel heard...........but understood.

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Transcript

A Narcissist Can’t Love ANYONE. Here’s Why

In this podcast, we explore why narcissists are incapable of genuine love and how their relationships are purely transactional.

Understanding Narcissistic “Love” Narcissists see relationships as transactions. They manipulate and use people to meet their own needs, devoid of genuine emotional connection. Love, for a narcissist, is about control and exploitation, not empathy and care.

The Painful Realization Victims often experience a painful awakening when they realize that their relationship with a narcissist was based on lies and manipulation. This realization is especially hard when they look back at what they believed were genuine moments of love and affection.

The Traits of a Narcissist A key trait of narcissists is their lack of empathy. They are emotionally stunted and cannot connect with others on a deep, emotional level. Their relationships are driven by self-interest and the need to control.

What is Genuine Love? Genuine love involves empathy, compassion, trust, and the desire to make the other person feel special and secure. It’s consistent and involves actions that back up the words “I love you.”

Narcissistic Manipulation Narcissists exploit the concept of love to control and manipulate their victims. They use “I love you” to create an illusion of affection, hooking their victims and conditioning them to associate love with control and abuse.

Recognizing Fake Love If a person’s actions don’t consistently reflect love and care, but instead fluctuate drastically, it’s a sign of manipulation. Genuine love does not involve making the other person feel insecure or unworthy.

The Aftermath Coming to terms with the fact that a narcissist never truly loved you is painful but necessary for healing. It’s crucial to understand that the narcissist’s inability to love is not a reflection of your worth, but of their deep emotional flaws.

Conclusion Narcissists cannot love in the true sense of the word. Their relationships are about control and self-gratification. Recognizing this can help victims break free and begin the healing process.

If this feels like you, reach out to Nova for assistance and support.