Fake Love and Flying Monkeys
A Toxic relationship and Fake love looks realâuntil it destroys you.
Welcome to Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, the podcast that exposes the hidden dynamics of toxic relationships, narcissistic abuse, and emotional manipulation. Hosted by Nova Gibson, leading trauma-informed counsellor and Director of Brighter Outlook Narcissistic Abuse Counselling, this podcast is your guide to breaking free from the confusion, fear, and self-doubt that come with being entangled with a narcissist.
In every episode, Nova draws from years of experience working with survivors to explore the complex, often covert tactics used in emotionally abusive relationshipsâfrom gaslighting, triangulation, and the silent treatment to smear campaigns and intermittent reinforcement.
Whether you're struggling with a narcissistic partner, parent, boss, or friend, Fake Love and Flying Monkeys gives you the tools and knowledge to understand the abuse, trust your instincts, and reclaim your powerâeven if the narcissist has never been formally diagnosed.
This is more than a podcastâitâs a lifeline.
Youâll get:
Clear explanations of narcissistic behaviour patterns
Practical strategies for setting boundaries and detaching
Real talk about the emotional rollercoaster of trauma bonding
Validation, clarity, and a path toward healing from narcissistic abuse
If you've ever felt trapped in a relationship that chips away at your self-worth, this podcast will help you name it, face it, and finally break free.
Youâre not alone, and youâre not crazy. Youâre in the fog of narcissistic abuseâand Nova is here to help guide you out.
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for more support and resources.
Itâs time to expose the fake love, silence the flying monkeys, and rewrite your story.
Fake Love and Flying Monkeys
Can a narcissist love you?
How can someone who professes to love you be so cruel? It's a horrifying thought, the possibility that your entire relationship was built on lies and the love you felt was entirely one-sided. Understanding the complexities of narcissistic relationships can be overwhelming, but I'm here to help you make sense of it all.
I unpack:
- What love means to the narcissist
Discover the unique and often twisted perception of love from a narcissist's perspective. - What a narcissist means when they say, "I... LOVE... YOU."
Learn the true intent behind a narcissist's declaration of love and how it differs from genuine affection. - Did they ever love you?
Explore whether a narcissist is capable of true love or if their emotions are merely a facade. - How to differentiate between "LOVEBOMBING" and genuine affection
Understand the signs of love bombing and how to distinguish it from someone who genuinely wants to make you happy. - Do they love you if they only make you miserable a small percentage of the time?
Delve into the confusion of intermittent positive reinforcement and its impact on your perception of love.
đ§ Tune in now and learn how to stop the manipulation before it controls you! Don't forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with anyone dealing with narcissistic abuse. Your healing starts with knowledgeâand Iâm here to guide you every step of the way.
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A Narcissist Canât Love ANYONE. Hereâs Why
In this podcast, we explore why narcissists are incapable of genuine love and how their relationships are purely transactional.
Understanding Narcissistic âLoveâ Narcissists see relationships as transactions. They manipulate and use people to meet their own needs, devoid of genuine emotional connection. Love, for a narcissist, is about control and exploitation, not empathy and care.
The Painful Realization Victims often experience a painful awakening when they realize that their relationship with a narcissist was based on lies and manipulation. This realization is especially hard when they look back at what they believed were genuine moments of love and affection.
The Traits of a Narcissist A key trait of narcissists is their lack of empathy. They are emotionally stunted and cannot connect with others on a deep, emotional level. Their relationships are driven by self-interest and the need to control.
What is Genuine Love? Genuine love involves empathy, compassion, trust, and the desire to make the other person feel special and secure. Itâs consistent and involves actions that back up the words âI love you.â
Narcissistic Manipulation Narcissists exploit the concept of love to control and manipulate their victims. They use âI love youâ to create an illusion of affection, hooking their victims and conditioning them to associate love with control and abuse.
Recognizing Fake Love If a personâs actions donât consistently reflect love and care, but instead fluctuate drastically, itâs a sign of manipulation. Genuine love does not involve making the other person feel insecure or unworthy.
The Aftermath Coming to terms with the fact that a narcissist never truly loved you is painful but necessary for healing. Itâs crucial to understand that the narcissistâs inability to love is not a reflection of your worth, but of their deep emotional flaws.
Conclusion Narcissists cannot love in the true sense of the word. Their relationships are about control and self-gratification. Recognizing this can help victims break free and begin the healing process.
If this feels like you, reach out to Nova for assistance and support.