Fake Love and Flying Monkeys
A Toxic relationship and Fake love looks real—until it destroys you.
Welcome to Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, the podcast that exposes the hidden dynamics of toxic relationships, narcissistic abuse, and emotional manipulation. Hosted by Nova Gibson, leading trauma-informed counsellor and Director of Brighter Outlook Narcissistic Abuse Counselling, this podcast is your guide to breaking free from the confusion, fear, and self-doubt that come with being entangled with a narcissist.
In every episode, Nova draws from years of experience working with survivors to explore the complex, often covert tactics used in emotionally abusive relationships—from gaslighting, triangulation, and the silent treatment to smear campaigns and intermittent reinforcement.
Whether you're struggling with a narcissistic partner, parent, boss, or friend, Fake Love and Flying Monkeys gives you the tools and knowledge to understand the abuse, trust your instincts, and reclaim your power—even if the narcissist has never been formally diagnosed.
This is more than a podcast—it’s a lifeline.
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Clear explanations of narcissistic behaviour patterns
Practical strategies for setting boundaries and detaching
Real talk about the emotional rollercoaster of trauma bonding
Validation, clarity, and a path toward healing from narcissistic abuse
If you've ever felt trapped in a relationship that chips away at your self-worth, this podcast will help you name it, face it, and finally break free.
You’re not alone, and you’re not crazy. You’re in the fog of narcissistic abuse—and Nova is here to help guide you out.
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It’s time to expose the fake love, silence the flying monkeys, and rewrite your story.
Fake Love and Flying Monkeys
The Narcissist Smear Campaign.
The narcissist's smear campaign is designed to isolate the victim and destroy their reputation. The narcissist's number one fear is exposure. The smear campaign is a pre-emptive strike to destroy the victim's credibility so no one believes them when they go to talk about their abuse.
In this episode, I unpack...
- What is a smear campaign?
- When does the smear campaign begin?
- How does a narcissist use a smear campaign to manipulate the perceptions of others?
- Why do intelligent people believe the narcissist?
- Should you defend yourself against the smear campaign?
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Introduction: Understanding Narcissistic Smear Campaigns
Welcome to today's in-depth exploration of narcissistic smear campaigns, a destructive tactic wielded by individuals with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). These campaigns are not merely gossip or slander but calculated assaults on a person's character and reputation, designed to isolate them socially and psychologically. Understanding the anatomy of these campaigns is crucial for those affected to regain control over their lives and mental well-being.
Anatomy of a Narcissistic Smear Campaign
At its core, a narcissistic smear campaign is a strategic effort to manipulate others' perceptions of the victim. The narcissist, driven by a need for dominance and control, employs various tactics to achieve this. Firstly, they spread false information about the victim, often embedding small truths to lend credibility to their fabrications. For example, if the victim had a minor disagreement with a coworker, the narcissist might exaggerate this into a claim of chronic workplace conflict or incompetence.
Secondly, the narcissist enlists "flying monkeys," individuals who unwittingly or willingly support and propagate the false narrative. These could be friends, family members, colleagues, or even strangers influenced by the narcissist's charm or manipulation. The flying monkeys amplify the smear through gossip, social media posts, or direct confrontation with the victim, reinforcing the narcissist's version of events.
The psychological impact on the victim is profound. Beyond the immediate distress of being falsely accused, there is a deeper erosion of trust in relationships and in one's own perceptions. Victims often experience a sense of betrayal from those they once trusted, as the smear campaign fractures their social support network.
Psychological Impact and Emotional Toll
Living under the shadow of a smear campaign can lead to pervasive anxiety, depression, and even post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). The constant fear of being maligned, misunderstood, or ostracized takes a toll on mental health. Victims may find themselves constantly on edge, second-guessing every interaction and motive, which undermines their sense of self and personal agency.
Moreover, the emotional fallout extends beyond the individual to affect their professional and personal life. In workplaces, for instance, false rumors can sabotage career prospects and lead to isolation from colleagues who buy into the narcissist's narrative. In personal relationships, friends and family may unwittingly distance themselves, believing the narcissist's persuasive lies.
Effective Coping Strategies
Despite the overwhelming challenges posed by narcissistic smear campaigns, there are strategies to mitigate their impact and reclaim one's life:
- Ignore and Deny Fuel: Narcissists thrive on attention and reaction. By refusing to engage with the smear, victims deny the narcissist the satisfaction of seeing their tactics work. This involves not responding to provocations, not defending oneself unnecessarily, and not seeking validation from those influenced by the smear.
- Set Clear Boundaries: Establishing and enforcing boundaries is crucial in protecting oneself from further manipulation. This includes limiting contact with the narcissist and their flying monkeys, blocking or muting them on social media, and clearly communicating to others what behaviors and communications are unacceptable.
- Document and Gather Evidence: Keeping a record of instances of defamation or harassment can be invaluable, especially if legal action becomes necessary. This documentation serves to validate the victim's experiences and can provide a factual basis for countering false allegations.
- Seek Support from Trusted Sources: Building a support network of trusted friends, family members, or professional counselors is essential. These individuals can provide emotional support, validation of the victim's experiences, and practical advice on navigating the fallout of the smear campaign.
- Prioritize Self-Care and Healing: The emotional toll of a smear campaign necessitates a focus on self-care. Engaging in activities that promote mental and physical well-being, such as therapy, exercise, hobbies, and mindfulness practices, can help restore a sense of balance and resilience.
Conclusion: Reclaiming Your Life
In conclusion, navigating a narcissistic smear campaign requires resilience, resourcefulness, and a steadfast commitment to self-preservation. By understanding the tactics used by narcissists, victims can reclaim their narrative and rebuild their lives on their own terms. It's a journey of healing and empowerment, where self-awareness and supportive relationships play pivotal roles in overcoming the damaging effects of psychological manipulation.
By implementing these strategies—ignoring the smear, setting boundaries, documenting incidents, seeking support, and prioritizing self-care—victims of narcissistic smear campaigns can begin to heal, regain their confidence, and ultimately thrive once again. Remember, your worth and identity are not defined by the lies of others but by your resilience and ability to rise above adversity