Fake Love and Flying Monkeys
A Toxic relationship and Fake love looks real—until it destroys you.
Welcome to Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, the podcast that exposes the hidden dynamics of toxic relationships, narcissistic abuse, and emotional manipulation. Hosted by Nova Gibson, leading trauma-informed counsellor and Director of Brighter Outlook Narcissistic Abuse Counselling, this podcast is your guide to breaking free from the confusion, fear, and self-doubt that come with being entangled with a narcissist.
In every episode, Nova draws from years of experience working with survivors to explore the complex, often covert tactics used in emotionally abusive relationships—from gaslighting, triangulation, and the silent treatment to smear campaigns and intermittent reinforcement.
Whether you're struggling with a narcissistic partner, parent, boss, or friend, Fake Love and Flying Monkeys gives you the tools and knowledge to understand the abuse, trust your instincts, and reclaim your power—even if the narcissist has never been formally diagnosed.
This is more than a podcast—it’s a lifeline.
You’ll get:
Clear explanations of narcissistic behaviour patterns
Practical strategies for setting boundaries and detaching
Real talk about the emotional rollercoaster of trauma bonding
Validation, clarity, and a path toward healing from narcissistic abuse
If you've ever felt trapped in a relationship that chips away at your self-worth, this podcast will help you name it, face it, and finally break free.
You’re not alone, and you’re not crazy. You’re in the fog of narcissistic abuse—and Nova is here to help guide you out.
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It’s time to expose the fake love, silence the flying monkeys, and rewrite your story.
Fake Love and Flying Monkeys
Healthy Love vs Narcissistic Relationship Love
Real love heals. Narcissistic love destroys. Do you know the difference between true love and narcissistic love? While healthy love is built on trust, respect, and emotional safety, narcissistic love is a trap—an illusion designed to control and manipulate you.
In this episode I’ll unpack how narcissists mimic real love in the beginning, only to shift into cycles of devaluation and emotional abuse. We’ll also discuss how true love feels different from love-bombing and trauma bonding, so you can recognise the red flags before getting trapped in a toxic relationship.
Inside this episode we discuss:
✔ The key differences between healthy love vs. narcissistic love
✔ How narcissists manipulate emotions to keep you hooked
✔ Red flags that you’re in a narcissistic relationship
✔ What real love should feel like (without confusion or chaos)
✔ How to break free from toxic love and start healing
"Love shouldn’t feel like a rollercoaster. If it does, it’s not love—it’s control."
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