7 Common Triggers After Emotional Abuse: Is it CPTSD? P/1

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In this 2 part series of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, I break down 7 common emotional triggers survivors experience after narcissistic abuse — and explain why these intense reactions may actually be symptoms of Complex PTSD (C-PTSD).

I look at how they all trace back to what you endured in that toxic dynamic.

I walk you through how narcissistic abuse rewires the brain, why emotional flashbacks are so real, and how to start healing from the inside out.

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👉 “Why am I still like this?”
👉 “Why do I freak out over the smallest things?”
👉 “Is this PTSD?”

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Transcript

Why Those Relentless Emotional Triggers Won’t Go Away After Narcissistic Abuse

Have you ever found yourself reacting to something totally normal — like a text message tone, a smell, or someone raising their voice just a bit — and wondered, “Why am I still like this? Why does this send me straight into panic mode?” Or maybe you’ve asked yourself the big question: Is this PTSD?

If that sounds familiar, you’re not imagining things. Those relentless emotional triggers after narcissistic abuse are very real — and so common among survivors of toxic relationships and narcissistic trauma. Today, I want to unpack seven emotional triggers that often stick around long after the abuse ends, and help you understand why your nervous system reacts this way. Spoiler: it might be something called complex PTSD (CPTSD), a form of post-traumatic stress disorder caused by ongoing trauma like narcissistic abuse.

So, grab a cuppa, take a deep breath, and let’s get into it.

1. Being Ignored: The Silent Treatment Trigger

One of the most painful triggers for survivors of narcissistic abuse is being ignored. Narcissists love to use silence as a weapon — the silent treatment isn’t just “needing space.” It’s emotional starvation, punishment, abandonment all wrapped into one. So now, when someone’s simply quiet or distracted, your brain might scream, “What did I do wrong? Are they mad at me? Am I about to be punished again?” That’s your trauma talking, not you. Your nervous system was trained to panic when connection was withdrawn. That’s not weakness — that’s survival.

2. Being Blamed or Accused

Narcissists are masters of blame-shifting. They made you responsible for their bad moods, their lies, their cheating — basically, everything that went wrong was your fault. So even innocent feedback or conflict can now feel like a full-on attack. Your brain screams, “Danger! Get small. Apologize. Fix it fast.” That’s emotional trauma hijacking your response — it’s not the truth.

3. Loud Voices or Sudden Anger

A raised voice — maybe on TV, a door slam, or someone arguing nearby — can send a shockwave through your body. You might freeze, dissociate, feel nauseous, or jump in to calm things down even when it’s not your fight. That’s your nervous system on high alert. Because back in the narcissistic relationship, anger wasn’t just an emotion — it was a warning sign for emotional or physical attacks. Your body still treats any hint of anger as a red alert, and that’s trauma.

4. Feeling Trapped or Powerless

Ever felt stuck in traffic, silenced at work, or forced to smile while being disrespected at a family dinner? Those feelings of powerlessness can trigger deep panic. Narcissistic abuse is all about control — the abuser having all the power, you having none. Your body learned to associate feeling trapped with danger. It’s not that you’re weak, it’s trauma conditioning.

5. Lovebombing or Flattery

This one’s tricky because it should feel nice. Compliments, affection, gifts — all part of the narcissist’s lovebombing to suck you back in. But now, kindness can feel like a trap. When someone’s “too nice,” your brain says, “Nope, I’ve seen this before. I’m not falling for that again.” That hesitation is your brain trying to protect you from being duped again — and it’s totally normal.

6. Being Questioned or Doubted

After being gaslit for so long — told you’re too sensitive, crazy, or imagining things — even small moments of being questioned can feel dangerous. Gaslighting isn’t just lying; it’s erasing your reality. So when someone asks, “Are you sure?” your body braces for the familiar spiral of self-doubt, overexplaining, or feeling like you have to prove everything. That’s trauma in action.

7. Seeing the Narcissist Happy or Moved On

Spotting your narcissistic ex thriving on social media — smiling, in a new relationship, looking like they’ve moved on — can hit like a truck. Even when you logically know it’s probably just lovebombing the next victim, your brain hasn’t caught up yet. It’s waiting for justice, an apology, or validation that may never come. That emotional whiplash is another trauma response.

Real-Life Examples of Emotional Triggers

Sometimes it’s small, everyday moments that set off big reactions:

• The Silent Treatment Trigger: A co-worker stops replying to your messages. You know they’re probably just busy, but your body goes into panic mode. Your mind races: Did I say something wrong? Logically, you know it’s not about you — but emotionally, it feels like being punished all over again.
• The Dress Question: A friend casually asks, “Why did you wear that dress?” Not meant to hurt, but your stomach drops. You feel exposed and criticized. Why? Because the narcissist’s snide remarks about your clothes still echo in your brain, triggering shame and self-doubt.

Why Does This Happen?

This is trauma. Your nervous system was trained to survive narcissistic abuse by reacting to these triggers. Your brain and body are remembering danger long after the abuse is gone — and that’s why those emotional landmines don’t just disappear overnight.

If you’re wondering, “Why am I still like this? Why can’t I just move on?” — know that this is part of the nervous system healing process. Healing is not linear, but it is possible.

What Now?

If these triggers are having a negative impact on your life, it might be worth exploring whether you have complex PTSD (CPTSD) from narcissistic abuse. The good news? You don’t have to do this alone.

Support from a trauma-informed therapist who truly understands narcissistic abuse recovery can make a huge difference.

If you want to explore this more deeply, I offer one-on-one Zoom counseling sessions tailored to survivors just like you. [Check out my website here]([insert your booking link]) to learn more and book your session today.

Remember: Your triggers aren’t weakness. They’re proof of your strength and survival. Every time you notice a trigger, you’re reclaiming your power and making progress toward healing.

Take it gentle, take it slow, and know you’re not alone on this journey.

Need support? Feel free to reach out or share your story below — I’d love to hear from you. And don’t forget to subscribe for part two, where we’ll unpack complex PTSD and how to heal from narcissistic trauma in more detail.